Here’s something I’ve found myself doing lately: Giving out compliments. Isn’t that Nice? Most people give compliments to their friends and coworkers—Oh, I love your new dress; Wow that haircut is great; Go-go hottie in the glossie. But I’ve been dishing out the props to people I don’t really know that well. I’m calling it an extension of my trade—I’m supposed to notice your new cut, color and eye shadow. But I’m afraid I’m edging into some Jennifer 8 territory here. Does it come off as creepy to email some (beauty related) girl you just met for coffee that you are coveting her curls? What about telling a friend’s new girlfriend that her features are striking? Should I offer up the oh I notice these things, because it’s sort of my passion and job or just keep quiet? Personally, I think people don’t give enough props when props are due. And I'm of the thought that compliments are gone the way of dial-up. So I’d love it if someone I barely knew told me (in a nonbunny boiler kind of way) that my lashes were just the most perfect thing she’d ever seen. So what say you, lovlie ladies? Are you a disher or a disser? Swak –Jenna Mahoney
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Pretty Little Comments: Are You a Disher or a Disser?
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I LOVE compliments, for sure, and I think some of my favorite ones come from strangers or people I don't know all that well. And while I worked at Starbucks, I got more into the habit of complimenting; it's a good way to start some chit chat. I will ABSOLUTELY compliment the coat/scarf/shoes/hair of the girl I'm sharing an elevator with.
I'm a disher!
I've wondered the same thing- "Am I being creepy?"- but came to the conclusion that I love it when strangers notice random things about me, so I should keep the ball rolling!
Hopefully you do the same- a compliment can lighten the darkest of days!
i love compliments from strangers. i never find it weird when someone random on the train, bus,or whatever, compliments me. i find them to be even more reassuring than friends because they must like it to compliment a stranger. some times a compliment from a friend can feel like their just saying that to be nice xD
Random strangers who go out of their way to compliment you really and truthfully mean it while your friends may just say something nice about a new hair cut/clothes/makeup because they feel like they have to.
If I like something I see on a stranger, I will go out of my way to let them know.
Therefore, I'm totally a disher!
I love stranger compliments :D.. sadly haven't got any. Maybe coz I don't do it.. Well, well, will compliment someone on the bus back home today :)
Totally a disher! As someone who gets random compliments from people I don't know (about my hair), I can safely say that those compliments can turn a bad day good again. So why shouldn't I pass that on? In my opinion, the world would be a better place if we all did that! (Or women would be happier, at least!)
I always wonder if I should compliment or not; sometimes I feel I may be "intrusive", but it brightens my whole day when I receive compliments. Also, when I do step out of my shyness and compliment someone, I can see that same twinkle in them. I whole-heartedly believe we should all take the time and compliment someone, say something nice, or maybe even just hold a door open for someone or some other nice action. Women aren't really in competition, we all need to show each other love and support ! :D
p.s. I'm going to start making a point to take my own advice a lot more often. Starting today! Which reminds me, I love your blog! I hate company posts-they always sound fake and testimonial-ish, but your post is very insightful and real; I appreciate that very much. Thank you for taking the time to share!
I'm constantly handing out compliments. However, many of the people that I interact with daily are male, so I tend to keep the physical compliments dialed down.
I usually dish when I really like something, I tend to keep disses to myself :)
I love to compliment people, everything from "Great boots!" to "I love your eyeshadow!" If I see something on someone that I like, I think that letting them know is just sharing a little bit of happiness! And if I should happen to receive a compliment? "Thank you, that's so nice to hear!" :)
I love giving compliments when they are due. People get tickled pink by it to because its so unexpected these days. Sometimes I feel like they might think I am a creep but I am just careful on how I present it. Im in sales and it is also an easy way of striking up conversation. I told this girl with a pin up do that I loved her hair and that I can never execute that hair style. Turns out she was a hair stylist she gave me her card and she was more open to talking to me when I helped her out at my store. I think everyone enjoys and needs a little confidence boost every once in a while!
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